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Role Call: A #WomanCrushWednesday Recap

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Real Women Who Inspire.

Real Women Who Inspire.

In honor of our tenth ‘Role Call‘ interview, a blog section featuring professional young women occupying diverse careers (and their advice to teens!), here is your chance to take a look back at the growing list of career role models who made the cut – and importantly, a recap of the life advice they wish they had received in high school.

Looking back, what general life advice would you give to your former high-school self?

Academia: “Chill out. I went to a super high stress high school, where I often joke everyone had to be the “Best ____” and that blank could be filled a million ways, English student, squash player, troublemaker, whatever (I was none of those). I think the times that I have struggled in my life are when some things were going awry, but I didn’t want anyone to know, so I refused to reach out for help. I’m still not great at that, and I think learning how to ask for help is a behavior/habit that we should develop earlier in our lives. Asking for help doesn’t mean that you are weak or dumb or less than, it just means you are strong and you want to improve.”

-Bernadette Doykos, Research Associate

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Sex Ed: Why The Bedroom Belongs in the Classroom

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It's hard to make a pencil and sharpener look sexy but use your imagination here.

It’s hard to make a pencil and sharpener look sexy but use your imagination here.

There’s an interesting [read: incredibly dangerous] tension between teenagers who do not want to talk about sexual health with their teachers, teachers who often cannot inform students any further than an ineffective abstinence-only education, and the parents who threaten legal action when their children are introduced to the concept of intercourse as anything more than a marital, procreational act.

It’s completely understandable that teens feel squeamish about sex education in the classroom. Why? Teens get completely mixed messages. In the media, everyone is having very sexy sex. In the classroom, the lesson plans sound like they were created in a different century: sex is taboo, secretive, and illicit before marriage. Of course teens are clamming up in the classroom, feeling guilty about their actions after hours, and engaging in high-risk sexual activity regardless.

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Love Letters: Freshman Blues, Red Leather Pants, and Do-Overs

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Love Letters

‘Love Letters’ is a Petal + Sass blog feature that regularly asks a group of diverse women in their 20’s and 30’s about their experiences with health, sex, emotional wellness, body image, college, careers – and what they wish they had known themselves as teenagers. Visit the ‘Love Letters’ To My Former Self page to learn more about the contributors.

Question posed: What was freshman year of college really like for you? What were your expectations versus the reality? Do you have any regrets, and what would you do differently looking back?

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5 Quick Ways to Make Friends Fast (Just Don’t Expect It To Last)

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How to make friends

If you are on the brink of heading off to college this month, or even starting a new boarding or high school, you may have been sent this recent article in the New York Times, The Real Skinny on Freshman Year. Conventional wisdom at its best – a definite read as you embark on a new adventure surrounded by strangers and boundless options.

What the piece didn’t break down was how and when you make friends. When starting a new school, this is perhaps the most anxiety-producing, keep-you-awake-at-night dilemma as you envision your new life unfolding. The truth is, the friends you make off the bat when starting a new school may not be the friends you end up keeping in touch with 10 years (or even 10 weeks) down the line – but they are important to settling in, feeling happy, and meeting those friends that will click for life. Maybe you’ll get lucky and your roommate or lab partner truly will your maid of honor someday. If not, here are 5 solid, quick tips (and their flip sides) to finding fast friends as you step foot onto a new social scene.

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Role Call: Real Women in Academia

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women in academia

Bernadette is a Research Associate at the University of Southern Maine.

Role Call is a Petal + Sass blog section featuring interviews with professional young women occupying diverse careers- and their advice to teens.

Name: Bernadette Doykos

Age: 32.99 (might be 33 by the time this posts, who knows)

College & Major: Wesleyan University (CT), Sociology

Graduate School & Concentration: Harvard Graduate School of Education, Ed.M. in Risk & Prevention (now Prevention Science and Practice because no one understood what that meant and it was hard to get jobz)

Vanderbilt University, working on that PhD in Community Research and Action (working hard to only secure degrees with meaningless titles to anyone outside of our immediate field. CRUSHING IT)

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Volunteer Work: Personal Reward, Professional Boost

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The old adage goes, “there is no such thing as true altruism.” Whatever your thoughts are on this, when it comes to volunteer work, who cares why you’re doing it? Putting in any time and effort to help those in need or make the world a little more polished is the whole point and nothing but the point. Whether you are doing it to get into a good college or trying to casually impress your date, we’ll take it.

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Girl You Better [Net]Work It: Top 10 Tips To Get Ahead

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how to network

Networking is critical to succeed, yet so many of us have zero clue where to begin. It’s never to soon (or too late) to start building your professional bridges when considering college or career. You never know who you might need to know down the line. First and foremost: always be open to learning about others, asking questions, and engaging new people in conversation. Putting yourself out there is the hardest part, but definitely pays off in the long run. Once you make a contact, reel it in: below is quick list of networking tips to follow if you want to learn more about a school, career path or open position.

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